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    Youth boredom

    Definition of boredom
        "Boring sia.." This term seems to be very popular among youths nowadays. It may sound harmless, but have you ever wondered what it can lead us to? Well, there are things that might sound impossible.
     
        When they lack momentum or leisure skills, the youths tend to get bored, as it is common for everybody to get bored when they suffer from lack of interesting things to do, hear or see.
     
        The common boring times to youths are during the evenings of weekdays, when they would be sitting down, doing nothing or watching television. Sundays are also considered as boring times, because there is nothing to do, no where to go and no friends around.
     
    Consequences of youth boredom
        These youths are not just any ordinary bored people. They seem to turn to detrimental behaviours to overcome their boredom; pre-marital sex, running away from home, truancies, drugs or alcohol usage, under age smoking, self-abuse, piercing, tattoos, delinquencies and etceteras... This can lead to social isolation, domestic violence or even sexual abuse.
     
    Why are they bored?
        Some parents restrict leisure opportunities because they want to protect their youths from from negative influences of the outside world, without realizing that it is causing rebellious attitude to develop in them. It is also said that the communities offer limited recreational activities. This leaves the youths to not have enough social and recreational activities.
     
        There are more reasons why youths get bored. No privacy may also be one of it. Youths want privacy because they feel as if they are growing older where they want to be independent and they just cannot stand parents intruding in their each and every activity. They have no where else to escape from the intrusions of parents and certain people who they feel uncomfortable with. Therefore they decide to turn to the detrimental behaviours stated above.
     
        Family breakdown may be one of the reasons too. There would be discordance present where they might just get sick and tired of disagreement. When a home becomes a place where they no longer feel at home, they tend to go out to find things to do or maybe to see their friends. Here is when negative peer pressure plays a part in influencing them to the detrimental behaviours.
     
    Solutions to youth boredom
        To prevent all these, Singapore has set up organizations to deal with these bored youths. There are societies like YMCA, YWMA and etceteras. In the government schools, students who always create trouble are sent for counselling sessions to correct their behaviour. The government has also come up with new rules that youths are restricted to stay out after 11 pm. The government claims that this restriction would prevent youths from delinquencies.
     
        There is an organization named Youthopia, which organizes activities such as; Anti drugs sports carnival, performances by youths or even local bands and many more. It also provides a Youth Centre where magazines, books, resource and research materials, informational brochures and event flyers to keep them updated, conductive meeting rooms and internet stations are available. They have also set up a youth park where the youths can just settle there whenever they feel bored; they do not have to turn to the delinquencies to overcome their boredom.
     
    From our point of view
        As youths, we strongly encourage the youths out there to do community service; cleaning up the old folks' homes, talkingto the elderly about their pasts, sing and dance along with them happily. In this way, they can have peaceful and harmless pastimes. They should have a clear mindset, reminding themselves of the phrase, " Choices have consequences".
     
        Lastly, we would like to advise all the youths out there to have principles to follow in life. This would prevent them from going astray whenever they feel bored. Reading anger management or teenage problems books would help them to understad their problems better, as well as improve their English. Finally, we would like to say, "Youths, think before you act!"

    Hero-worshipping

    Hero-worshipping is to love unquestioningly and uncritically or to excess or venerate someone as an idol (to idolize). People tend to get interested in celebrities at times when they are looking for direction in life, as in their teenage years. A third of people reportedly suffer from a Celebrity Worship Syndrome, a fascination in the lives of the rich and famous that can become a dangerous addiction.

     

    This trend is worrying to me because celebrity worshippers are likelier to suffer from anxiety, depression and social dysfunction than those who are not. They tend to be extroverts. Like, socially, lively, active and adventurous (in a negative way). The next stage, which affects about 10%, is when they develop an "intense-personal" attitude towards an idol. Such as they believe that they have a special bond with the star. These addicts are often neurotic, tense, emotional and moody.

     

    These include celebrity stalkers and people who are willing to hurt themselves or others in the name of their idol. They collerate with symptoms of psychosis, such as impulsive, antisocial and egocentric behaviour. Like the case of the high school bombing in Saint John, New Brunswick. Some students made a plan to kill other teens and teachers at their school. Luckily some students over heard the plot and told their principal, and the school called the police. The police searched the lockers and homes of the students in question, and uncovered a scary plot.

    They found a list of names, a pipe bomb and gunpowder. They also found a date for the attack - April 20th, Adolf Hitler's birthday and the anniversary of the Columbine massacre. (On April 20, 1999, two students went on a killing spree at Columbine High School in Littleton, Colorado. They killed 12 students, 1 teacher and then themselves.)

    The students are now charged with possessing an explosive device. Some details about their extra-curricular activities are also causing some concern. They are air cadets, and two of the teens are now also under military investigation for a separate incident that happened just three days before their alleged bomb plot was revealed.

    Does Adolf Hitler deserve the idol title? Maybe to certain people yes. But the disadvantages he created are more than the advantages. He used charismatic oratory and propaganda, appealing to economic need, nationalism and anti-Semitism to establish an authoritarian regime.

    At the time of Hitler's death most of Germany's infrastructure and major cities were in ruins and he had left explicit orders to complete the destruction. Millions of Germans were dead with millions more wounded or homeless. In his will he dismissed other Nazi leaders and appointed Grand Admiral Karl Dönitz as Reichspräsident (President of Germany) and Goebbels as Reichskanzler (Chancellor of Germany).

    Since the defeat of Germany in World War II, Hitler, the Nazi Party and the results of Nazism have been regarded in most of the world as synonymous with evil. Historical and cultural portrayals of Hitler in the west are almost uniformly negative, often neglecting to mention the adulation the German people bestowed on Hitler during his lifetime, though the vast majority of present-day Germans share a negative view of Hitler.

    Eminem is considered as an idol to certain people. He has not done a contribution that made him deserve to be venerated as an idol. He just wrote songs that some parents think as bad influence to their children. In spite of this, there still are people who are so fond of him. I understand, Eminem has an amazing love towards his daughter. Which I myself admire. But the critics in his lyrics are unacceptable to certain individuals. Do you think he deserved the uncountable awards he achieved? Maybe he does, he wrote music with quality. He expresses his feelings in his songs, the negative part of it is the bad influence he causes. Like he mentioned in his song he wants to kill his wife, insulted his own parents with abusive language.         

    How about Mother Teresa? She sure deserves the heroine title. At the age of 38, she realized her life's mission was to minister to the poor. She began the Sisters of Charity in Calcutta. Under her direction, the Sisters of charity ministered to the sick and the hungry of Calcutta. Showers love and food to anyone who came to the mission's doorstep. She began giving speeches worldwide, helping to bring attention to the plight of the poor everywhere. In 1979, she was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize and her position as the world's greatest champion of the downtrodden was firmly established. Towards the end of her life, Mother Teresa was a friend of kings and presidents worldwide. But it was with the poor that she chose to spend most of her time, traveling to war-torn areas.

    Elizabeth Cady, a freedom hero. She fought for women's rights. Part of Elizabeth’s inspiration came from the death of her brother, the only male sibling. Elizabeth went to her pastor the day after her brother’s death and told him that she needed to become well educated in math and higher language classes, this was her desire at age 11.She won the Greek competition, even though she was the only girl in these higher level classes at Johnstown Academy where she attended school.

    At thirty-three years of age, Elizabeth began to voice her opinion on women’s rights. She later developed a group of men and women who formed the first Women’s Rights Convention in Seneca Falls, New York.

    Elizabeth was voted the president of the Woman’s Suffrage Organization in America. This organization changed the lives of women by reassuring their determination to make sure women had the right to vote. The Woman’s Suffrage Organization also fought so that women could have the same equal opportunities, as well as educational and employment opportunities, that men had. Through this organization, Elizabeth Cady Stanton met Susan B. Anthony, another Woman’s Rights Activist, and they became close friends and worked as a team, to change the world for women. In 1848, with the help of Stanton and Anthony, the Married Woman’s Property Act of New York was passed. This act allowed women to be able to have custody of their children, hold property, make contracts, keep their own earnings and inheritance, and sue in court.

    Without Elizabeth Cady Stanton, women would not have the same equal rights as men, today. Elizabeth Cady Stanton was so brave for standing up and fighting for her rights as a woman, especially during a time when women were looked down upon and laughed at for wanting the same rights as men. I am truly inspired by Elizabeth Cady Stanton’s bravery, courage, and determination. Without a doubt, Elizabeth Cady Stanton is my hero.

     

    A hero is someone who has an unbelievable amount of courage and bravery, someone who is not afraid to say what they feel, someone who doesn’t pretend to be something they aren’t, someone who is independent, and does things for the well being of others, but most importantly, my hero must be determined, and dedicated to their goal. My advice to all, hero-worshipping is not entirely wrong. It is alright to adore someone, as long as it is controllable everything will be just fine. We have to consider the real heroes out there that really deserve the title. To venerate one as an idol, we should always think whether they have done anything worth admiring for. Just look at the politicians who obscure self-serving motives behind dazzling smiles and expensive haircuts, super models that hide anorexic bodies behind layers of makeup. Hollywood makes heroes out of decidedly un-heroic narcissists. Do you think they deserved it? I want everybody to think maturely before venerating one as an idol.

    The ugly Face of RACISM

           As I walk along a particular tranquil lane on the seventy-seventh street, I will always come across a beautiful graffiti on the wall. It looks impressive at the first sight, not many would have noticed it is just another obvious expression on racism. Intimidation, physical violence, also racial ethnic slurs are just another examples of obvious racial discrimination.
     
           I just do not understand why these people would rather squander their time in expressing gruesome remarks on racism whereas other beneficial things can be done with the time spent. There are also more subtle examples on expressing racism, such as discrimination in hiring, apartment rentals and admission to certain areas.
     
          Still wondering what discrimination means? Discrimination is the denial of equality based on personal characteristics, (what i am referring to is races and colours) which is usually based on prejudice and stereotype. No law can prevent prejudiced attitudes. However, the law can prohibit discriminatory practices and behaviour.
     
         Unfortunately, these expressions are often ignored as people do not know how to deal with them. However, each individual has the right and responsibility to speak out against racism. Otherwise, their tongue-tie may be interpreted as tacit approval of discrimination.
     
        It is not as if we cannot combat racism. Object to racist jokes and insults, organise poster or essay contests, intercultural activities and develop a policy statement against all forms of racial discrimination. These are just some ways to combat racism, there are other ways that can be done.
     
        Racism poisons the atmosphere of trust we need in order to live in peace and harmony. It just creates more havocs and chaos in this world. There will never be peace when we keep ourselves busy differentiating with others. Are we really that different? Even if we are, is it wrong to be different? Why don't we just appreciate each other's diferences and accept the fact that our blood are red and our bones are white. We are all humans. Even animals do not make their differences as big issues.

    My message to all

    Hey guys.. Read the whole thing?? U ought to read from below tah get things right... Not interesting right? Too long right? Hmm, i knoe.. SO, if u wanna read.. read la... I hope the main character of this whole thinggy read this.. Cuz it's all abt him..

    Maybe i do hv feelings for him.. I jz dont understand y i always let the right person go.. And stick with the so-called jack ass..
    My boi is soo horrible... He just suck to the core... So u ppl see how my life is like? Screwed up huh? Damn, i'm such a lamer....

    I regret that this shit happened... I shdnt hv gone arnd for vendettas to innocent guys.. Ended up got back to meeh... Karma huh..

    I was just sick and tired of being hurt by guys... I dont trust any of em.. But still it is unfair for me to still fuck up ppl's feelings... Damn, i'm so BAD!!!

    Sorry to all the guys i hurt... My bad..

    p.s: u see guys.. nt all girls can be trusted.. one the gender shd give in to stop hurting the other gender.. Cuz the whole gender is affected by vendettas..
    Get wat i mean.. If u dont nvm... Cuz i aint so sure wat i'm crapping...

    so, i'mma chou now..
    c u guys arnd...
    peace out..

    signing off
    ~FINA~

    Songs that remind me abt him and can make me cry...

    Kenangan Terindah, Samsons...

    Aku yg lemah tanpamu, aku yg rentan karena..
    Cinta yg tlah hilang darimu yg mampu menyanjungku...
    Selama mata terbuka, sampai jantung tk berdetak..
    Selama itu pun aku mampu utk mengenangmu..
    Darimu, ku temukan hidupku.. Dan bagiku, kaulah cinta sejati..

    Bila, yg tertulis utkku adalah yg terbaik utkmu.. Kan ku jadikan kau
    kenangan yg terindah dlm hidupku..
    Namun, takkan mudah bagiku meninggalkan jejak hidupku
    yg tlah terukir abadi sebagai kenangan yg terindah.....

    Aku bukan untukmu, Rossa..

    Dahulu kau mencintaiku, Dahulu kau menginginkanku..
    Meskipun tak pernah ada jawabku, Tak berniat kau tinggalkan aku..

    Sekarang kau pergi menjauh, Sekarang kau tinggalkan aku..
    Disaat ku mulai mengharapkan mu, Dan ku mohon maafkan aku..
    Aku menyesal t'lah membuatmu menangis, Dan biarkan memilih yang lain..
    Tapi jangan pernah kau dustai takdirmu, Pasti itu terbaik untukmu..
    Janganlah lagi kau mengingatku kembali..
    Aku bukanlah untukmu..

    Meski ku memohon meminta hatimu, Jangan pernah tinggalkan dirinya..
    Untuk diriku..

    The worst part of the whole thing...

    On the day, i 4gt when... Maybe thursday or friday? Or maybe saturday... Dunno ar..

    I called him.. We were jz talkin... Then i jz say "since u and me hv no strings attached y dont u go find wilder girls?" Cuz he's abit 'wild'... Then we were jz crapping...
    In the end he jz said that he'll slowly find another girl... He asked me to go find 1 too...

    I jz said ok.. And i ended up confessing to him that all this while i nvr broke up with my bf...

    He was disappointed.. I mean, how could i do such a thing to him.. Cuz from how i act and stuff.. It's as if i was madly in love with him that i can die without him la... Watever la... Like u dunno me, i'm such a good actress, i deserve an OSCAR or maybe GRAMMY...

    Maybe i really did love him... I dunno.. I'm confused myself.. I feel so horrible..
    Well, he was kinda speechless and dumbfounded when i told him all abt it..

    I mean like, he nvr did anything wrong and i busted him like this.. DAMN!!! I'm such a bad ass bitch!

    He was really disappointed.. And i bet he already hates me now... He ought to be.. He says he doesnt wanna talk to me anymore and dont loook for him anymore.. He wont answer my call and stuff... I mean i jz shut up the whole way... U dont expect me to beg him to still talk to me.. I mean, i'm too much already.. I dont even deserve his friendship anymore.. And if i jz said "oh ok"
    that wd be totally rude.. I dont even wanna say it.. That's so horrible...

    So i jz smsed him... and talkin shit... he replied... only afew..
    Then his last words to me was bery touchin and it made me cry...
    U knoe wat he said?
    "ok, i hope u happy wit ur bf.. Take care, muackss.. my last kiss to the person whom i love.." {something like that}
    Sweet right?

    too bad he hates me already...
    haiz.. Life...

    chou peeps..

    signing off
    ~FINA~

    The break up...

    On june 20th...
    Something happened.. He jz got back from gunung ledang for after a few days...
    Kinda missed him.. When i called.. We were jz talkin.. He ended up askin for a break up.. He said that he's lazy to hv relationships already.. Well, i was not really sad, cuz u knoe i hv my boi rite.. but i somehow felt hurt.. Why should i? If i love my boifren more, i dont hv to be hurt do i?

    He asks me if he asked me to be his so-called adek, can? I jz said yea sure..
    Man, wut else can i say? and u kno wut he replied.. "thnx, love u sayang.. muax.."
    If he does love me y wd he want a break up for?..

    So it's a break up... But we still talked as if we were on.. The difference is jz that we broke up...

    then something happened on i 4gt which day.. was it on thursday or friday? or saturday.. aint sure..

    I'll tell ya on the next post...

    signing off
    ~FINA~

    The relationship...

    On the 4th of June...
    That dude i was talkin bout earlier and me are together already... The relationship was goin smooth... Well, not really... He gets sulky for no reason.. It might get irritating but i was jz stayin patient on him.. I dont feel like elaborating more on our relation ship..

    He's very sweet though, i hv no idea y i cant love him like how i love my boi...
    Wait a minute, i do love him.. It's just that i love my boifren more... I really dunno why...

    He says that he's putting hopes on me and he expects our reltionship to go far...
    I feel the guilt in my heart when he says that.. He looked serious when he said that... And dumb me, still goin on wit my boi behind him..

    We met on wednesday on 7th june... (I think) Jz like wat couples do...
    Basically we meet on every wednesday...
    When i go home, i was jz lookin forward for a wednesday..
    I'll miss him.. The look of his eyes.. His kiss, his hugs... I miss those everytime i go home...

    Everything bout him is jz great... Even though he makes me sad everyday by getting sulky for the tiniest reasons... I duno y i still can bear with it... Do u think i love him? Maybe i do... But what makes me think that i love my boifren more.. Even though this dude makes me sad, but he can always make me feel happy..
    We almost break up for quite a number of times.. He says that he doesnt wanna hurt me anymore.. Cuz he knows he hurts me by being sulky all the time.. He wants me to be happy...

    When i dont talk to him.. I feel that i miss him... no idea y... He's jz something great that happened to my life.. But i dunno y i'm heartless enough to hurt him by two-timing him..

    Then something happened on 20th june...

    I''ll tell ya in the next post...
    signing off
    ~FINA~

    How we stead...

    I wanna tell u how i started hurting someone... I feel really guilty bout it...

    How do i start? Firstly...
    Hmm let's say it.. I knew some1 in the mids 2005.. (somewhere there, aint sure..) We were quite close, but not so arh... He was nice.. i kinda liked him.. Then his prepaid was low, so.. it was kinda hard for me tah contact him.. Then in the end.. Some bunch of losers stole my fon.. I lost his number... Damn! how worse can it get....

    Lost contact.. Was wonderin if he still remembers me... Nah, i dont think so... Everytime i break up with a boifren, i try out different kinds of number, maybe cd get to his... Jz tryin my luck.. ya knoe... Hahakz... {i know i sounded desperate.. Was bored ya knoe...}

    Bois after bois passed.. Hmm, still havent found the right 1 yet...

    Then on May 8th the person that i love now.. asked me to be his girl... So i'm attached...

    This dude, hmm... I really love him alot.. But one day, I somehow found out that he seems to be lying to me.. Dunno bout wat.. Just something i feel...
    I just dont understand guys, y do they think we're so stupid.. I mean, helloooo... Girls progress faster than u guys...

    I was a bit fed up.. Then was jz chattin on msn.. Then, there's this dude... Jz talkin to me... In the end, he ends up askin me whether i knew this person.. {that person is like , can say my almost closest fren larr...} I'm like, ofcourse i do... He says she's his adek agkt... Some sort.. Then we were jz chattin.. Talkin bout nothing...

    One day, i was jz hangin out wit my fren... {his so-called adek..} Then i jz asked her, abt him... So, she told me ya larh.. She said she knew him for long already...
    So, i was jz askin arnd bout him... Then , i came to conclude that he's the guy that i knew somewhere in the mids 2005 dude..

    I was surprised, cant belive we wd meet this way... hahakz.. {LUCK...}
    Well, he doesnt remember meeh.. It's okie..

    Remember, i was still fed up wit my boi.. So i was jz talkin to my fren. Then we were havin conference call.. Me, she and him.. Jz talkin, sayin how fed up i was wit my boi.. And sayin how much i love him larh..

    The second conference call was abit serious.. We were jz talkin then i said i was single already.. My fren was askin me, was i interested in him.. U swear i wd say yes... I was embarassed larh... i said no.. I mean.. Hellooo.. I'm a girl i cant be sayin the thinggy first right.. He was kinda disappointed.. I dunno, my fren was scoldin me lar.. Damn, i'm sorry.. u cant be expecting me to say it first... She said that he was really disappointed.. I didnt know he wd be that disappointed...

    Then.. {lemme jz cut the story short..} Then, talk2.. He confessed he liked me then.. I also confess lorr.. {I was still wit my boi but didnt say lorr} Then, my fren goes off... It was jz both of us talking.. Jz talkin lar....

    Then one sunday.. he asked me to be his girl.... I accept lorr...

    U wanna know wat happens next?? visit my blog the next time.. For now i write till here...
    I'll continue abt the relationship later...

    signing off
    ~FINA~
    p.s, my boifren doesnt know abt him..